No need to apologize CAM buddy.
Totally respect and empathise where you are coming from.
One factor which I find intriguing is that you had access to the STM VHS before SII was released theatrically.
You would have been one of the few at that point in time...…..I managed to grab that 1979 STM VHS off ebay a couple of years back...….and as I said before.....it's rather poor picture quality actually masks some of the seams of the SPFX and makes them blend in with the live footage more seamlessly.
In my experience watching a film repeatedly can have 2 different effects which I think is applicable in particular to STM and SII
The 1st effect is that the more you watch the film.....the more enamoured with it you become.....some films that spring to mind in my own personal experience that get better or offer something different with each successive viewing are :
Blade Runner(which I hated when I first saw it)
A Passage To India
Amadeus
Star Trek Wrath Of Khan.....and heck..... The Motion Picture!
….and there are many more.
The 2nd effect is films that get worse with successive viewings
For me personally:
Lord Of the Rings(all 6 flicks)
Star Trek V
Superman IV
…..you get the idea!.....and the last 2 films started off badly to begin with!
STM and SII fall somewhere inbetween.
In some ways I wish I had never seen STM and SII again after viewing them back to back in 81'.
Home video at once gave you access to your favourite flicks and at the same time stripped away the mystique and aura simply by providing the means to be overexposed to them.
Regarding SII
In my own personal experience:
1st Viewing may 1981 35mm --Blown away
2nd Viewing Summer 1982 35mm--blown away again
3rd viewing February 1983 at home on the V2000 video system (made by Philips and only released in Europe)------blown away again
4th Viewing February 1983(V2000)…..still blown away but not as much.
And from that point on I have never enjoyed SII as much as those 1st 3 viewings.....despite the advent of better quality VHS tapes,Laserdiscs, DVDs and Blu rays over the course of the next 39 years or so.
I just became too familiar with it.
For me SII works best as a one off first time viewing experience....and especially in the context of 1980/81 where it was undisputedly unique as a cinematic extravaganza.
It is not the kind of film like Blade Runner where you can uncover subtle differences on each successive viewing.
I would say the same for STM in my own personal experience.
The best experience was the first viewing on 35mm on the double bill with SII.
Every time I have seen it since I have got a little bit less out of it.
Seeing as I am going through a whole bunch of flicks from 1978 right now....with the intention of rounding it off with a viewing of STM....I am hoping to recapture some of that 1st time viewing aura!